Finding out a partner has cheated is never easy – but most people would rather know the truth than remain in the dark about their significant other’s infidelities.
To catch an unfaithful partner in the act or confirm suspicions, people turn to the experts; private investigators, who make it their life’s work to uncover hidden relationships and illicit affairs.
As the ones that hunt down cheaters, private investigators know all of the signs that indicate someone is hiding something – or someone.
We spoke to a top private investigator – a former federal agent – about the obvious signs someone is cheating, as well as the lesser-known red flags, and when it is time to panic.
The most common and obvious signs, he told us, are the ones such as spending longer hours at work, business trips, less sex, or defensiveness.
A new commitment to the gym or new clothing may also be a sign your partner is working on bettering themselves – possibly with someone else in mind.
Private investigators are experts at catching infidelity (Stock)
Noticing just one or two of the signs on the list may not mean a partner is necessarily guilty, as all relationships go through change – but “if you have three or four, you have a problem,” he told us.
However, one of the most important signs, one that you should not ignore, is intuition, according to Martin – as people can typically always tell when a significant other is not being 100 per cent truthful.
2.Leaving the house early and returning late
4.Holiday or family event absences
7.Secret accounts (Instagram, email)
8.Hidden credit card bills
10.Scent of someone else (typical lipstick on the collar)
11.Buying gifts you haven’t seen
12.Unexplained items – condoms in the car are a giveaway
13.Joining a gym
14.Missed calls from an unknown number
15.Coded or secretive text messages
17.Evasiveness or defensiveness
19.Prickliness or short temper
20.Hate surprise visits (your unexpected arrival may come at an 21.inopportune time for a cheater)
22.Even if a partner isn’t displaying any of the typical signs, your feelings may be picking up on something.